Expectation. Such a small word with such a big consequence.
Expectation is the reason for so many failed marriages, relationships, friendships.
I can tell you a lot about expectation, how it affected me in the past. I am an all or nothing girl. I tend to invest in any friendship or any type of relationship a 100%. If i love you, you will know i love you, you will never have to wonder. I will always put everyone else in front of my own needs and then you kind of expect the same back. This can only be right? Well, WRONG. The moment you expect anything in return really, you will always be disappointed. True love only begins when you expect nothing in return.
People tend to have expectations on how a relationship should be, you expect for things to be this way or that way and that my dear, will cause problems in life. When we give someone our undivided attention or time, we expect the same from them. What we need to realize is everyone does not show love or affection the same way. We all have different love languages and quite frankly none of us are stitched together the same.
Expectation feeds frustration. It is an unhealthy attachment to people, things and outcomes.
When you love, love with all your heart, all in, without any expectation.
When you care and reach out to people or do good, do that with all your heart without any expectation.
When you decide to invest in a new or old friendship, do so wholeheartedly without any expectation.
SO in the end, who hurt you? Your own expectations.
Let it go, that is where peace begins.
Love and light.